ITS OKAY TO GRIEVE

Last week I aired on Superscreen TV and someone called in to express his feelings of sadness over his broken relationship. I could feel the agony in his voice and the truth is, everyone in pain wants something: empathy. More so, as a Pain Doctor, I don’t downplay anyone’s pain because we all have different thresholds. Besides, what’s pain is relative.

So, it’s okay to grief and I’d explain: imagine that you sustain an injury, it’s completely normal for the body to bleed in the process and bleeding during a physical hurt is tantamount to grieving during an emotional hurt. However, we both know that even after an injury, it’s unhealthy to bleed for too long lest one becomes susceptible to death.

Sadly, the brain cannot differentiate physical and emotional pain meaning it cannot tell the difference between “falling from a bike” and a “heartbreak.” Thus, grieving for too long makes you susceptible to depression and you may end up becoming suicidal.

This is where you have to review your plight because when a situation cannot be changed, it’s only wise to change your interpretation of the situation. Tell yourself that perhaps your journey together has ended and you are not meant to be. What we often think has happened to us may have actually happened for us.

Nonetheless, some chapters in your life will not be good but don’t remain in it for too long because one chapter doesn’t define the whole book. So, forget about the past and flip to the next chapter in your life.

However, if you continue to lean on the past, you are literally touching your wound and if you truly want the wound to heal, you need to stop touching it.

It’s okay to grieve but never let your past harm your future. Your past can’t be altered and your future doesn’t deserve the punishment.

This article has 16 comments

  1. Godwin Reply

    I appreciate you tee high…this article was a eye opener for me especially where you said when a situation cannot be changed it is only wise to change your interpretation of the situation..I am also going through a heart break right now and these words just lifted me. Thank you

  2. KesighoTha Reply

    Thank you so much sir
    God bless you.
    This hit me hard.
    Sometimes these things happen for us. And if i want the wound to heal I need to stop touching it. I am grateful. More wins sir.

  3. Kesigho Reply

    Thank you so much sir
    God bless you.
    This hit me hard.
    Sometimes these things happen for us. And if i want the wound to heal I need to stop touching it. I am grateful. More wins sir.

  4. Bernadette Felix Reply

    This writeup just helped me this morning, even though I’ve read your book, I realized that one need to be constant watch about their emotions, feelings of depression is everywhere but what makes you rise above it is your attitude to that pain… I was already going into depression when I changed my perspective on the issue and I realized, I may not have the solution yet, but I still have a treasure in all that mess. And I laughed, the pain cannot hold me down. I’ve risen above it. You too, can

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